Disbelief and sadness are the two most common feelings associated with grief. Numbness or a dreamy sensation of shock may be your mind’s way of protecting you from reality for a time. Sadness can be the lingering black-hole feeling in the pit of your stomach, and it may show itself as full-on crying fits, occasional weeping, or anything in between.
When a loved one dies, some individuals feel angry, although not everyone who experiences anger feels it the same. Sometimes people are angry at God, while others are angry at the person who died. It is possible for people to feel angry at themselves for things left undone or unsaid. Sometimes anger is energy that just needs to go somewhere, which is another reason why it is important to stay active even when it feels difficult to do.
Amy Sloboda, manager of the Grief Counseling Center of Hosparus Health, says grief can manifest as anxiety, irritability, or even forgetfulness. The overwhelming responsibilities that often follow the death of a loved one, such as going through a house to dispose of possessions and sell the property, can cause a person to feel a sense of panic.
BY CARRIE VITTITOE